Curiosity Started It All
From as early as I can remember, people have captivated me; what they feel, what they want, what they keep hidden, and why. Beneath all that curiosity was one subject that fascinated me more than any other: sexuality.
To me, sexuality has always been far more than sex. It’s identity, connection, pleasure, communication, vulnerability, confidence, and belonging. It’s one of the most intimate, misunderstood, and quietly important parts of being human.
I was passionate about it for years before I was brave enough to make it my work.
Instead, I followed my curiosity into other spaces. I worked in a simulation lab exploring cognition and behaviour before returning to university as a mature-age student to study psychology. I loved understanding people, but I couldn’t shake the feeling that something was missing.
At the same time, I was trying to follow the “right” path in my own life. I was in a relationship that looked good on paper, but it was sexless and, at times, deeply lonely. Slowly, it chipped away at my confidence and sense of self.
When that relationship ended, I found myself asking a simple but confronting question:
About Claire
(background, how you got here)
I started in a simulation lab, sitting in on debriefs about cognition and personality - and something lit up in me. I went back to university as a mature-age student to study psychology. I loved learning about the human mind, but it always felt like a piece was missing.
Why This Work Matters
Let’s be honest – struggling in sex is normal.
It doesn’t come with a manual, it’s not taught well, there’s still a lot of shame in seeking help.
We were never taught how to navigate intimacy.
We’re expected to know how to communicate our desires, set boundaries, receive pleasure, navigate rejection, maintain connection, and create fulfilling relationships—yet few of us were ever given the tools.
As a result, many people feel alone in experiences that are incredibly common.
They wonder whether something is wrong with them.
Whether they’re broken.
Whether everyone else has it figured out.
They don’t.
My work exists to create a different conversation.
One that’s grounded in science, informed by the body, free from shame, and open to curiosity.
A space where you can explore who you are, what you want, and what’s possible for your relationships, sexuality, and life.
What do I actually like?
That question became the beginning of my own journey.
I realised I had spent years being in my own head; performing, people-pleasing, and disconnected from my body. So, I started exploring. Dance. Breathwork. Tantra. Kink. The psychology behind desire and intimacy fascinated me as much as the experiences themselves.
Yet even as I completed my psychology degree and built a successful career, I still felt pulled towards something I couldn’t quite name.
Then life intervened.
After years of debilitating pain, I was finally diagnosed with endometriosis, almost twenty years after my symptoms began.
The recovery that followed changed me.
When pain becomes your whole landscape, you have to completely rethink what pleasure means. You stop searching for grand experiences and start finding it in smaller, subtler places. A breath. A sensation. A moment of connection. A feeling of safety in your own body.
For the first time in years, I began finding my way back to myself.
Not long afterwards, I discovered somatic sexology.
It felt like finding the missing piece of a puzzle I’d been building my entire life.
Psychology was the science I craved, and somatic sexology was the sensation that shapes our experiences.
It brought together everything I loved: science, human behaviour, embodiment, nervous system regulation, intimacy, pleasure, and genuine connection. More importantly, it helped me understand that transformation doesn’t happen through insight alone, it happens through experience.
The more I explored, the more I learned how to communicate my desires, honour my boundaries, and trust my body. Through practices like tantra, kink, and shibari, I developed a deeper appreciation for consent, presence, communication, and the intelligence of the nervous system.
The Pleasure Paradox was born from that integration.
It’s the meeting point between my two worlds: the evidence-based psychologist and the curious explorer. The structured professional and the free spirit. The science and the mischief.
Because we’re all full of contradictions.
You can be highly successful and deeply disconnected from yourself. You can crave intimacy and struggle to prioritise it. You can know exactly what you want in your career and have no idea what you want in your relationships.
I’ve lived those paradoxes myself.
That’s why my work is grounded in curiosity rather than judgement, exploration rather than performance, and connection rather than perfection.
They say that when you find what you’re meant to do, all the detours start to make sense.
That’s exactly how this work feels to me.
You don’t need to have it all figured out.
You just need to be willing to get curious.
My Approach
Whether you’re navigating desire, intimacy, communication, confidence, pleasure, relationships, or simply feeling disconnected from yourself, my work is designed to meet you exactly where you are.
Together, we’ll combine practical tools, evidence-based understanding, and body-led exploration to help you create meaningful change that feels sustainable, authentic, and deeply your own.
My Qualifications
- Bachelor of Business - Southern Cross University
- Bachelor of Psychology (Counselling major) - Griffith Universityy
- First Class Honours in Psychology - Griffith University
- Certificate of Somatic Sex Coaching - Institute of Somatic Sexology
- Member, SSEAA (Somatic Sex Educators Assoc. of Australasia)
Professional Development
- Nervous system regulation
- Trauma-informed practice
- Authentic relating
- Tantra-informed education
- Kink-aware practice
- Consent and relationship dynamics
- Shibari and embodied communication
Values in Practice
Somatic Sexology
Body-based practices that help you reconnect with sensation, pleasure, and embodied awareness - rather than staying stuck in your head.
Psychology
Understanding the stories, patterns, and nervous system responses that shape how we experience intimacy and desire.
Tantra
Slow, present, energetic awareness as a pathway to deeper connection with self and others. No mysticism required.
Kink Education
Exploring power, sensation, and edges in safe, consensual, informed ways. Curiosity without judgement.
Trauma Informed
Every session is grounded in safety and consent. We work at your pace, with your nervous system - never against it.
Nervous System Regulation
The foundation of everything. When the body feels safe, genuine change becomes possible.
Hear from your fellow
pleasure seekers
"Working with Claire was the first time I'd ever really been asked what I want. Not just in sex - in everything. I left with more questions than answers, and somehow that felt exactly right."
"I came in thinking we just needed to 'communicate better.' What we actually needed was someone to hold space while we said the real things out loud. Claire did that. It changed everything."
"I've done therapy. I've done the self-help books. Nothing touched what this did. Working in the body - not just the mind - was the missing piece I didn't know I was looking for."
You don't need to have it all figured out.
You only need to be willing to get curious. Book a free 15-minute discovery call. No pressure, no sales script - just an honest conversation about what's possible for you, and whether we're the right fit to explore it together. Claire takes a limited number of new clients each month.